You’ve made it through some difficult life experiences. You work hard and have achieved a lot in your life yet you feel unhappy and dissatisfied. No matter how much you do it feels like it’s never enough. Maybe you keep pushing yourself to do more but it just leaves you feeling drained and isolated.
You take care of others but no one is really there for you. It’s probably safe to say you’ve always been on your own and never had anyone to rely on. This quality makes you strong, dependable, and resilient. Yet you’re also in deep pain. It’s possible you go through bouts of high anxiety or deep depression. You might cope with these feelings by working more or drinking too much.
You tell yourself you need to “get over” your difficulties and deal with things on your own. You don’t allow yourself to ask for help or to get close to people. As a result, you feel isolated, worthless and flawed. Maybe you keep asking yourself, “What’s wrong with me?”
Now you’re exhausted from all the pain, stress, and keeping up a strong front. It’s all become too much. Maybe a relationship has ended or you start to feel more anxious or depressed. You realize it’s time to do something about the emptiness you’ve been feeling your whole life.
How Therapy Helps
Therapy helps you reconnect with yourself. You can begin to look inward: at your feelings, needs, wants, and desires. You can also begin to unpack your history and understand how your childhood and adult life experiences got you to this point. Very likely, you had to become strong and self-sufficient because help wasn’t available. You may also have been put in the position of taking care of others, thereby learning to put aside your own needs.
The process of therapy can help you to alleviate your suffering by reducing anxiety and depression. You’ll also learn to connect more with your feelings and different parts of you. This process allows you to work through past pain and losses. As you become more aware emotionally, you’ll be able to form better relationships with others in your life.
I work well with men and women who are hard on themselves, pride themselves on their self-sufficiency yet deep down feel unlovable and worthless, and struggle to forge close relationships with others. We can help you begin to open up in a safe space and make room for all the parts of you. My therapeutic approach is informed by attachment-based approaches, emotion-focused theories, and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP). These methods allow us to go below the surface to access your deeper experiences and create lasting change.
If you’d like to move forward please contact me. I see individual clients for therapy on a weekly basis. As we work together we will talk about your needs and expectations and progress towards your goals. To get started, please call 512-270-9002 or email me. We will connect for an initial consultation and scheduling phone call.