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Why Is Change So Hard?

Why change is hardIn a word: resistance.

The part of us that wants to change is, almost always, counterbalanced by the part of us that wants to keep things the same.

Why would we do this to ourselves, you ask. Why do we have such a difficult time acting on our healthy desires to break bad habits, get into a healthier relationship, have more friends or any of the other goals we might have set for ourselves? And it isn’t just that we have a hard time following through on making changes, it’s that a part of us actively resists our efforts to change.

Affect Phobia Explained

Fear of emotionsWhen we think of a phobia, it is often of an external fear such as snakes or heights. Yet what is more common are affect phobias, fears of our emotional experiences. Rather than being an external fear, an affect phobia is a fear/discomfort with something that happens internally. In fact, it is these internal fears that underlie many psychological problems.

Why do we fear our emotions? And how does this cause problems?